Admins of facebook groups

Have you ever noticed that an admin of any group on Facebook believes that somehow they have become king or queen of an entire country?  I have.

Examples I have seen are a disturbing trend amongst those with self-esteem issues lower than the roots of a thirty-year-old tree.

Of course, we also see this with comments on news stories, especially if President Donald Trump is the subject. It's pretty embarrassing to see people acting like a bunch of angry mongrels.  In fact, anything regarding the President and any defense of him comes with backlash and the reason is simple, ego and brain bleeding. Just my humble opinion.  If you believe everything that a far right or left wing news agency prints, you are fairly stupid.  We have a once respected newspaper writing "opinion" pieces that are heavily democratic in opinion, no in-between. Most people read these opinion propaganda and believe it is actual news because of the paper that is spewing it. Wake up for the love all things sacred.  Now we also have the flip side, where pro POTUS also slants things to a point in which it is inaccurate.

Back to the point of my post here -

No one rules you and no one should, it is up to you see something and question it, especially behavior...or stories that seem particularly slanted.

You do not NEED to be in a group or on a page, they need you and the more people that leave it due to seeing abuse and snarky behavior, the more they will have to pipe down and realize who's really in charge.  If you witness the unfair treatment of another member, leave the group, if you like it, start your own and remember you are not a King or a Queen just a humble person who expects others to treat members with honesty, dignity, and kindness. It really isn't that hard, unless one's ego is far bigger than they are and that is always the case.

I have seen other members behave in a bullying and demeaning type of way in many groups I have been in, I leave them!! I will not give a page or group numbers who allow such abuse to go unchecked. Most times though, it is an admin.

The all mighty GOD of a page or group that say "this is MY group or MY page"...yeah idiot, we know and you need members so....have a cup of shutty.  Funny, because it cost them nothing to create and it costs them nothing to run except internet. NO one has ever purchased an internet plan to run a page or group, again, shut up.  Also, Facebook owns that page, it is on their site, they didn't purchase anything.

Oh, and the rules....so fun!!  Many are "you can't share the content of this page"...Really? Why not? Is it illegal content? Where did you get the content from and then share it on your page or in your group?  How about "you can not delete a comment!" Oh, so if someone accidentally tags a friend on a post, when said friend is not in group or page, you must leave it or .....be BANNED!!!!  The horror!!!

Or, you must post all photos one at a time, and others, you must put all photos in an album or be called stupid, and BANNED!!!!!

How about the groups that think they are elite? You know the ones...secret groups that are created by one country to criticize the citizens of another country that they moved to!! YES, these exist and IF you ever dare question them, guess what?  You are messaged to be told you are not welcome said group and BANNED!  That actually happened to me. Ask me how much I care! I do not. I think anyone who moves to another country and I do not care why, should embrace the culture, food, people and way of life. NOT create a group that specifically bans people from the said country and goes about whinging and whining about everything that has to do with the country. It is pathetic and it is negative.  There is no power of positivity in looking for things and people to hate.

If you are a humble, kind, and have integrity, leave any type of page like that and make your own, in doing so you are taking a small step to add more light and more positivity to the lives of those who visit it.

Sobria.


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Is it a mirage?

PEOPLE ARE NOT ALWAYS WHAT THEY SEEM..ARE THEY?

Some times, it is as if I am listening to a wood chipper right next to my ear, chipping away at branches as I sit wincing at that screeching grinding noise that accompanies it. 

It makes me very uncomfortable and suspicious when someone will tell me all about how horrible a friends child is, a child that is so horrible, they would like to put their hands around the child's neck and choke it..while they tell me this, they stand up, assume position, bent over far enough to reach a child, while their face is showing anger and hatred, their hands are making the motions..then go on to say that "but the mother is such a good friend, she just lets that little brat get away with everything and makes excuses for every nasty thing she does, I swear that child is evil."

 As I am witness to this, I sit there well aware said person would never do such a thing. It was a way in which to express her absolute frustration with a situation there is no control over. STILL..when you later hear this person complaining about the neighboring dogs barking early in the morning and stating that if said dogs keep it up, said person will kill them by throwing rocks at them..I have to wonder is this person for real or just accustomed to speaking so violently when it comes to things she does not like or gets overly frustrated with.  I don't have the absolute answer to that. I can only say:

These are just bad habits to me..and I believe that is all they are, habits..and yes, I do believe people can pick these up if that is how they were raised for example or in the process of  growing up; Maybe it was how all their friends were, or maybe just one and this person was impressed by the theatrics and the tough act that went along with it..you never know how someones life was and why as adults they say and do things that are really "out there." I do not believe this person would maliciously harm any child or animal..even though it seemed as if said person would..I do not believe for a minute that it ever would. If I did, I would have reported the confessions to the authorities. 

Sometimes, I believe we are all so quick to judge others based upon what sets well with us. I have seen pages on Facebook about animals where people day in and day out verbally abuse people who have had to part with their pet, who have posted photos of a child in a crate with a caption saying "you wouldn't let your kids live this way, don't let your dog live this way".  Who have written there is "a special place in hell" for dog and cat owners who leave their pet at a shelter and so on. I do not comment on such things because it would be WW3.  I believe that an owner should seek out a rescue and I believe crates are great for puppies and dogs, they are after all, den animals..no I don't think they should live in them, but they are great for them to sleep in. For being such "dog experts" and I use that term loosely, they obviously don't understand dogs are pack animals, and no dog, no matter it's size should ever be permitted in your bed. While it does not mean they have to sleep in a crate either Just my silly little opinion.  

My point is, we all don't "know it all", while there are experts on every matter..tried and true is what I listen to..and they are by experts with years of education and training and proof to back up the advise they give. It's like asking my non-surgeon neighbor how to perform a c-section and then stating it as fact and now believing I know how to perform one. Just an example.  I think much of the time some people just want to be important and to be heard, they want their opinion to be valued and authenticated and these pages give them that..at least in part. I also believe the same for those the write blogs, myself included. I have no idea how my blogs come across, I do not know if they make me important, but they sure do give me a way to vent, to explain, and to open my mind up to those who read it. 

~SOBRIA~

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Hypocrites

I think we can all agree we've met at least one, if not a few in our time. I find these people quite interesting; I often wonder if they even take a look at themselves before they go spouting off at the mouth?

An example might be a man who steals tools from building sites, smacks his child so hard he leaves his handprint, and is so dominant over his wife, she grabs her kids and runs when he goes into "red alert" mode. Yet, this person, I wouldn't call him a "man", believes he is a great parent and husband, sees nothing wrong in HIS stealing or doing illegal drugs, and doesn't seem to actually find any faults with himself whatsoever. Yet, this person has security cameras around his house..no one better try to steal from him, only he can steal... 

In many ways, his spouse is no different as she too enjoys many hits off the pipe throughout the day and knows that she has to hide the children's misbehavior from the father. While I believe she likely feels she is protecting them, she is paving the way to a life of deception. Children do learn from us as they watch and learn how we handle things. I'd think parents would fully understand this. Obviously not. The mother spends her time messing up the kitchen and leaving it, probably to take a few hits off the pipe, making the children something to eat and handing it to them in the living room, so they can still watch television. I read an article once that described such a practice as the reason so many children are obese.  I suppose that it also does take away from time that could very well be spent at the dinner table where all meals, in my opinion, should be eaten, but it's possible it could improve digestion; to be sitting up straight and eating properly. I'm no expert, I'm just guessing about digestion.  

Both of these individuals come from another country, no, this is not their motherland. They elected to come to this country, to build a life away from the drugs, crime, and gangs in their homeland. So why then do drugs? Why then be a part of crime (stealing)?  They also don't even like the people of this country, they refer to them in many foul ways and claim to have never met a "smart" one yet! 

I am not certain that I see too many smart things about them either to be honest. Certainly, jeopardizing your children's welfare by physically abusing them, growing an illegal drug, or even having said illegal drug in your possession is not very smart, nor is stealing very expensive items from building sites very smart, the higher the value, the bigger the crime, and what if one of the workers caught him? What might they do? Would they call the police or would they figure out that he's the guy stealing everyone's expensive tools that they rely on to get work to feed their families.. There is a strong possibility of street justice over calling the police.  What good does that do the family income? How smart is that? How smart is it to be of childbearing age and not be on any birth control and drink alcohol and smoke pot all the time?  I don't find that to be very smart either.  How about sitting outside, talking on the telephone, cussing your neighbors up a storm, and being dumb enough to think they can't hear you..that's not very smart..it's also not very smart to borrow things from said neighbors..you know they heard you.. I'd be careful what I borrowed and put in my mouth!  This is the same person who calls others backstabbers and users. 

I can't think of a better example at the moment to describe a hypocrite!

Be happy! It really messes with their heads

One of the things I love is, despite any attempt to bring me down, I generally remain happy. There is no doubt that initially when I see things without my rose colored glasses on, I am deeply hurt and disappointed, but it never lasts long, I am resilient and truly have a wonderful home life as well as friendships that are positive, fulfilling, and loving. 

There are several people I know, and have been friends with for well over 26 years. We have had moments, but never fights or sour words, we respect each others differences, we don't try to change one another, and we never call each other names. One thing we have always done is be respectful to one another, it has never been "my way or the highway". We actually love one another and each other's families as well. 

If or when, someone enters your life, for whatever reason, and there is always a reason, and they are initially a great help or just a warm person to be around, and you find that really changes into something of quite the opposite, there is also a reason for that. It is not to teach you anything really, but nevertheless it will, I believe that the reason is to gauge how well we respond to it, because that..will surly show your own personality.  You will do the usual mourning of losing someone you considered a friend, and hopefully you will quickly move on. It is important to focus on what is positive in your life and smile..be happy to be rid of someone who may have cursed you out behind your back, or used you for financial gain, or maybe just took for you for their mule. Whatever the case, be happy that the person(s) and the universe showed you that he and or she does NOT have you or your best interests at heart! It WELL & TRULY is a Blessing!!!  No more wasting time..

I love that I have such a wonderful disposition that I bounce back..there is no doubt that I will recall what the person(s) did from time to time, but I certainly do not live my daily life based upon it. I love my life way too much for that! I love the real friends that I do have and treasure way too much for that. Imagine if I let the actions of a few, impact my life so much that I began to become judgmental, suspicious and overly opinionated with real friends?? That would be catastrophic! They do not deserve that, no good friend does, no matter if this is a friend of one month or 3 centuries!

Be happy!!! Smile in the face of adversity, stand up to a bully and stick up for yourself! If you feel that you can't? Send me a message, I will help you overcome that!

xoxox

SOBRIA.