Facebook Mom

I am seeing this more and more and it is really grating at my last nerve! 

I don't mind of course seeing a mom post to their child's wall "dinner is ready", though I admit I don't like seeing it a lot, it isn't as bothersome as a lot of other things I do see.

How about those moms who carry on and on and on at how much they love their child, hold discussions with them about personal things on Facebook. I see something very disturbing about this when these two are in the same house!  

Is it not possible to love your child off of Facebook or tell them off of Facebook? Why is so important that everyone think you're a stellar mom - on Facebook?  If you can't hop off your computer and talk to your child when the child posts he doesn't want to even live anymore, you aren't a stellar mom, you're ignorant and a terrible mother, in my opinion.  This "mom" posts his wall back saying "don't say things like that honey. I love you to the moon and back."   How about you get up off your ass and go to that child, he is in the same house!  How about you not engaging in drinking with that child when he isn't even of age? I saw that post too.  And the Mother of the year award goes to..not her or anyone like her. 

I guess that goes in line with those who have perfect lives on social media, always had a great day, with great friends, and had great food...or they are off to vacation, again!!  Perhaps it's the photos of the new car, the new house, or the numerous happy snaps.  It seems that people don't go anywhere or do anything without planning the pictures to post on Facebook. How about those moms and dads who can't even take their child to the park without being on Facebook, taking 30 photos, of all the same thing, and posting them. Or the young girls taking the half-naked bathroom selfies, protruding those duck lips...or the boys, shirtless in the bathroom, flexing but trying to look like they're not.   There is always the "group" of people that must post pics and statutes about everything that they are doing, but only if it is fun.   

Facebook moms really irritate me. Yes, I tell my kids I love them on Facebook, but they don't live with me, they're adults, I don't however make a big habit of it. Instead, I call them or private message them to have a conversation. I think that is appropriate. I kid around with them on Facebook, keeping it light and easy, no need for the intimate details of who we are as people and as a family to be public knowledge.  That is the way I see it.  I'm not talking about your child graduating from any school and you not being over the moon and expressing it!  Nor am I talking about being happy and proud over an achievement they've done.  Those ARE  the reasons to express your love, pride, and excitement for them.

For the rest of it, I guess what bugs me is the intent behind it, intentional or not...it's too look like your life is oh so much better than most..and when you see you are doing that or someone actually points it out by saying something like "wow, you have a wonderful family life, is everything always so perfect and loving?"  That is when you'll throw in a status -  "I just received my electric bill, I can't believe the increase!!!!!!!!!   At first, I thought it might be a faulty appliance causing it, but remembered, that is not possible, all of my appliances are brand new, I guess I'll just have to cut my vacation back from 10 days to 7 days in order to pay it. :-(  Life can be so unfair!"   <-----still will NOT concede that life isn't perfect everyday..lol    Trust me when I tell you, I know these people, they're obviously on my friend's list, life is far from perfect ...yet for some idiotic reason they live and breathe for making people think it is.  I don't get it.

Perhaps I should not feel irritated, annoyed, or nerve-wracked by it, but instead pity them..but I've never been one to just dole out pity to anyone for any reason..

I don't see that changing.

~Sobria~

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Hypocrites

I think we can all agree we've met at least one, if not a few in our time. I find these people quite interesting; I often wonder if they even take a look at themselves before they go spouting off at the mouth?

An example might be a man who steals tools from building sites, smacks his child so hard he leaves his handprint, and is so dominant over his wife, she grabs her kids and runs when he goes into "red alert" mode. Yet, this person, I wouldn't call him a "man", believes he is a great parent and husband, sees nothing wrong in HIS stealing or doing illegal drugs, and doesn't seem to actually find any faults with himself whatsoever. Yet, this person has security cameras around his house..no one better try to steal from him, only he can steal... 

In many ways, his spouse is no different as she too enjoys many hits off the pipe throughout the day and knows that she has to hide the children's misbehavior from the father. While I believe she likely feels she is protecting them, she is paving the way to a life of deception. Children do learn from us as they watch and learn how we handle things. I'd think parents would fully understand this. Obviously not. The mother spends her time messing up the kitchen and leaving it, probably to take a few hits off the pipe, making the children something to eat and handing it to them in the living room, so they can still watch television. I read an article once that described such a practice as the reason so many children are obese.  I suppose that it also does take away from time that could very well be spent at the dinner table where all meals, in my opinion, should be eaten, but it's possible it could improve digestion; to be sitting up straight and eating properly. I'm no expert, I'm just guessing about digestion.  

Both of these individuals come from another country, no, this is not their motherland. They elected to come to this country, to build a life away from the drugs, crime, and gangs in their homeland. So why then do drugs? Why then be a part of crime (stealing)?  They also don't even like the people of this country, they refer to them in many foul ways and claim to have never met a "smart" one yet! 

I am not certain that I see too many smart things about them either to be honest. Certainly, jeopardizing your children's welfare by physically abusing them, growing an illegal drug, or even having said illegal drug in your possession is not very smart, nor is stealing very expensive items from building sites very smart, the higher the value, the bigger the crime, and what if one of the workers caught him? What might they do? Would they call the police or would they figure out that he's the guy stealing everyone's expensive tools that they rely on to get work to feed their families.. There is a strong possibility of street justice over calling the police.  What good does that do the family income? How smart is that? How smart is it to be of childbearing age and not be on any birth control and drink alcohol and smoke pot all the time?  I don't find that to be very smart either.  How about sitting outside, talking on the telephone, cussing your neighbors up a storm, and being dumb enough to think they can't hear you..that's not very smart..it's also not very smart to borrow things from said neighbors..you know they heard you.. I'd be careful what I borrowed and put in my mouth!  This is the same person who calls others backstabbers and users. 

I can't think of a better example at the moment to describe a hypocrite!

Criminal Law - New York State

Pedophilia and Sexual Offending Against Children: Theory, Assessment, and Intervention










Assault on children
Of all the situations I have come into contact with, this is the most disturbing. It became even more disturbing when the defendant would have been found to have had prior arrests and even jail sentences for this crime, yet, was released in a very short time. If you look further into the criminal careers of pedophiles, some will end up murdering their tiny victim. They may not start out that way, but after repeated jail sentences and arrests, they become murderers as well.


After doing research on the subject, I came to find that this crime against children isn't taken as seriously as drinking and driving is. This finding, using the jail or prison sentences as evidence, disturbed me and my sense of right and wrong to the core.


When I picked up a newspaper or read the local news on the internet and see that a fatal DWI (Driving while intoxicated) got the driver LIFE in prison, I would think, a life for a life. Read further down the page, and see that a pedophile who murdered his victim got 20 (twenty years) to life. Why is this innocent child’s life, worth less, legally, than the life of the innocent passenger or another driver? Life without parole should be mandatory for murders such as these, but for some oddity, the law hasn't been updated to hold the child’s life with that much regard.


To criticise law is not my intention. There have been many changes to the laws for children, for example, one in Florida (New York, should take notice)


“Jessica’s Law”
Jessica's Law is the informal name given to a 2005 Florida law, as well as laws in several other states, designed to punish sex offenders and reduce their ability to re-offend. A version of Jessica's Law, known as the Jessica Lunsford Act, was introduced at the federal level in 2005 but was never enacted into law by Congress.


The name is also used by the media to designate all legislation and potential legislation in other states modeled after the Florida law. Forty-two states have introduced such legislation since Florida's law was passed.


The law is named after Jessica Lunsford, a young Florida girl who was raped and murdered in February 2005, by John Couey, a previously convicted sex offender. Public outrage over this case spurred Florida officials to introduce this legislation. Among the key provisions of the law is a mandatory minimum sentence of 25 years in prison and lifetime electronic monitoring of adults convicted of lewd or lascivious acts against a victim less than 12 years old. In Florida, sexual battery or rape of a child less than twelve years old is punishable only by life imprisonment with no chance of parole. Her story is below;


Jessica Marie Lunsford (October 6, 1995 – February 27, 2005) was a nine-year-old girl who was abducted from her home in Homosassa, Florida in the early morning of February 24, 2005. Believed held captive over the weekend, she was raped and later murdered by 47-year-old John Couey who was living nearby. The media covered the investigation and trial of her killer extensively. On August 24, 2007 a judge in Inverness, Florida sentenced Couey, a convicted sex offender, to death for kidnapping, raping, and murdering Jessica. Jessica was buried alive with her stuffed toy.


There is also the


“Amber Alert”
An AMBER Alert is a child abduction alert bulletin in the United States and Canada, as well as other countries, issued upon the suspected abduction of a child. AMBER is officially a backronym for "America's Missing: Broadcasting Emergency Response" but was originally named for Amber Hagerman, a 9-year-old child who was abducted and murdered in Arlington, Texas in 1996. Exceptions are in Georgia, where it is called "Levi's Call", Hawaii, where it is called a "Maile Amber Alert", and Arkansas, where it is called a "Morgan Nick Amber Alert". Those plans were named after children who went missing in those states.


AMBER Alerts are distributed via commercial radio stations, satellite radio, television stations, and cable TV by the Emergency Alert System (where they are termed "Child Abduction Emergency" or "Amber Alerts"), as well as via e-mail, electronic traffic-condition signs, the LED billboards which are located outside of newer Walgreens locations, along with the LED/LCD signs of billboard companies such as Clear Channel Outdoor, CBS Outdoor and Lamar, and wireless device SMS text messages. Those interested in subscribing to receive AMBER Alerts in their area via SMS messages can visit Wireless Amber Alerts, which are offered by law as free messages. In some states, the display scroll boards in front of lottery terminals are also used. The decision to declare an AMBER Alert is made by the police organization investigating the abduction. Public information in an AMBER Alert usually consists of the name and description of the abductee, a description of the suspected abductor, and a description and license plate number of the abductor's vehicle, if available.


I have limited this to crimes that have taken place in the USA because I am more familiar with these crimes and of the sentences received. Though, I did recently hear on the news here that a father, who beat up the man who molested his son received more jail time than the offender.


There is work to be done, and this is one area of the law that desperately needs an overhaul.


Thank you for reading my blog on this matter, and if you have any comments or suggestions, please feel free to offer them to me.
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