Facebook Mom

I am seeing this more and more and it is really grating at my last nerve! 

I don't mind of course seeing a mom post to their child's wall "dinner is ready", though I admit I don't like seeing it a lot, it isn't as bothersome as a lot of other things I do see.

How about those moms who carry on and on and on at how much they love their child, hold discussions with them about personal things on Facebook. I see something very disturbing about this when these two are in the same house!  

Is it not possible to love your child off of Facebook or tell them off of Facebook? Why is so important that everyone think you're a stellar mom - on Facebook?  If you can't hop off your computer and talk to your child when the child posts he doesn't want to even live anymore, you aren't a stellar mom, you're ignorant and a terrible mother, in my opinion.  This "mom" posts his wall back saying "don't say things like that honey. I love you to the moon and back."   How about you get up off your ass and go to that child, he is in the same house!  How about you not engaging in drinking with that child when he isn't even of age? I saw that post too.  And the Mother of the year award goes to..not her or anyone like her. 

I guess that goes in line with those who have perfect lives on social media, always had a great day, with great friends, and had great food...or they are off to vacation, again!!  Perhaps it's the photos of the new car, the new house, or the numerous happy snaps.  It seems that people don't go anywhere or do anything without planning the pictures to post on Facebook. How about those moms and dads who can't even take their child to the park without being on Facebook, taking 30 photos, of all the same thing, and posting them. Or the young girls taking the half-naked bathroom selfies, protruding those duck lips...or the boys, shirtless in the bathroom, flexing but trying to look like they're not.   There is always the "group" of people that must post pics and statutes about everything that they are doing, but only if it is fun.   

Facebook moms really irritate me. Yes, I tell my kids I love them on Facebook, but they don't live with me, they're adults, I don't however make a big habit of it. Instead, I call them or private message them to have a conversation. I think that is appropriate. I kid around with them on Facebook, keeping it light and easy, no need for the intimate details of who we are as people and as a family to be public knowledge.  That is the way I see it.  I'm not talking about your child graduating from any school and you not being over the moon and expressing it!  Nor am I talking about being happy and proud over an achievement they've done.  Those ARE  the reasons to express your love, pride, and excitement for them.

For the rest of it, I guess what bugs me is the intent behind it, intentional or not...it's too look like your life is oh so much better than most..and when you see you are doing that or someone actually points it out by saying something like "wow, you have a wonderful family life, is everything always so perfect and loving?"  That is when you'll throw in a status -  "I just received my electric bill, I can't believe the increase!!!!!!!!!   At first, I thought it might be a faulty appliance causing it, but remembered, that is not possible, all of my appliances are brand new, I guess I'll just have to cut my vacation back from 10 days to 7 days in order to pay it. :-(  Life can be so unfair!"   <-----still will NOT concede that life isn't perfect everyday..lol    Trust me when I tell you, I know these people, they're obviously on my friend's list, life is far from perfect ...yet for some idiotic reason they live and breathe for making people think it is.  I don't get it.

Perhaps I should not feel irritated, annoyed, or nerve-wracked by it, but instead pity them..but I've never been one to just dole out pity to anyone for any reason..

I don't see that changing.

~Sobria~

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Blessings

There are so many blessings in our lives, but sometimes we choose to not look at them, be thankful for them or acknowledge them. I understand that most times it is because our problems and stresses can overtake our mind and be set as a priority...but if you ask me, that is a huge mistake!  

I heard a saying many years ago, you get what you give..and while I am sure that is not always true..for the most part, it is.  If you always be thankful for the little things, you will find, I believe, that life is much easier to get through. When we focus solely on the negative aspects, which is easy to do with so many world issues and so many people without work, we become negative..which may attract negative energy; obviously what I am getting at is the opposite holds true. 

I have been really depressed and feeling sorry for myself. I am in another country, very far away from my family and friends..Most of the people I have met here are shallow and self absorbed..not all, but almost all. It does not set well with my sense of fairness and my natural need for harmony and peace..So, I have been pondering home, the familiar and those that I know and love, who are not shallow and self absorbed.  These bouts of being homesick are not easy to get through, they are so turbulent, I feel a need to leave NOW, not later, and..I can't. I must remind myself why I moved here to begin with..but none of that has worked out..some of it my fault and most of it "just the way the cookie crumbles".  While I love this country and I love the friends I have made, as well as the family I have met..but ultimately, it is not my family and it has been made (gently) clear by them on a few occasions. Sometimes, I think moving so far was a lesson..to not take for granted the family you have and the friendships you've maintained for over 25 years. Though, new experiences and new friends have also been a wonderful experience..except when they went sour. I do have one friend here who I treasure..but she too... is far away from me. 

I do feel discouraged at times when it is always me telling family and friends "I miss you and love you"..when I do not get in return...It makes me wonder, am I missed as much? Am I loved as much? I have thought about the idea of stopping myself from doing it to see if anyone writes that to me...yet, I can NOT because that would be denying them my love (from afar) and the possible joy of knowing that someone who loves them, also misses them. 

The blessings in which this post is about is to be thankful for your past, present and hopes for the future. I am grateful for the internet, Skype and tinychat..I have been able to talk to my family and friends for hours, for free..I can see them and hear their voice, as they can see me and hear mine. It makes home seem not so far..and it helps me sleep so peacefully knowing I have connected with them on that level. 

I feel blessed for food on our table, a roof over heads, the good health of all my children, husband, siblings, my parents and friends..Though I am saddened that my mother in law is not doing so well..I hope that they (The doctors) are able to get her back on track. I'm grateful she the care of a medical facility and good doctors. 

I feel blessed that I have compassion and empathy, it seems to me that not many do. So many or driven by lust and money..they forget or do not even think about those that are destroyed in the crossfire. So many abuse a child or an innocent animal to feel powerful, because inside they feel so weak - or are mentally destroyed. What the excuses are do not concern me as much as the harm. WE all know right from wrong and they do too, otherwise they would not try to hide it and conceal it.

I am blessed because I feel, because I think, because I care and because one day I know, being positive about my circumstances will bring good things into my life. If I focus too much on all that is wrong, I will be buried in darkness and sadness and that is where I would stay. I refuse to let my shortcomings define me.

xoxox Sobria.

Us, the human race

The Power of Integrity: Building a Life Without Compromise 



Integrity: Good People, Bad Choices, and Life Lessons from the White House 



I find myself asking, what in the hell is going on with people?  I can give a hundred examples of why I ask, and quite honestly, worry.  Recently, I was involved in something on facebook, that turned out to be nothing but a ploy for attention. The part that really disturbs me is that I really went to bat for this person who says she is pregnant and being harassed, and given this person is a relative, I was very upset!!  I intervened and defended said relative, only to later read that the harassment really didn't bother her,  cause "no one was bringin her down". I live in another country, it was expensive for me to call that country 5 times in her defence. Not only was I extremely upset by the language used against this relative, but also suggestions she should have an abortion!  That individual is clearly mean, malicious, and thoughtless. However, my relatives response was obviously "ha, ha, I got my aunty involved, this sucker will pay now" and once I was involved, I did end the problem, at great expense to me financially and emotionally.  In that scenario, I evaluate it as follows; The harasser is void of compassion, plain and simple, the relative is void of integrity, plain and simple, and myself, is void of self control. 

Other instances include animal abuse, it seems to be ramped, like a disease. I am seeing more and more instances of animal abuse than ever! I am talking torturing animals, for pleasure..and then you have people who do not even consider their pet a part of the family any more when it becomes an inconvenience..They want to move or have a baby, perhaps they want to downsize into a beach front unit, I don't know and quite honestly, I do NOT care what their pathetic excuses are. These people KNOW they are wrong, morally corrupt, and complete liars! They bring them to the shelter with so many lies it isn't funny, "suddenly they have an allergy to the 4 year old cat or dog, or they lie and say it bites (stupid idiots, puts that dog right in the front of the line for euthanasia), they even say it's a stray..how pathetic is that? A well fed, healthy animal; who is clean and groomed..that isn't a stray fuck wit, it's either a lost dog or your dog, likely your dog cause you are looking so hard for an excuse to ditch your "beloved pet" that you can't reason that out! 

School bullying has been an issue from day one in any school around the world, why is that? It is something learned at home?  Is there abuse in the home of the bully? What makes a bully so aggressive, mean, and hateful?? anyone..????  I am pleased to see it IS an issue taken seriously now instead of telling the victim to harden up..ignore them and they'll stop (right.........)

The good ole on-line experience..WOW is all I can really say, there are so many people who use their time on-line wisely and actually educate others or help them in some way, then of course there are those that use it as an opportunity to degrade, insult, and bully others. I don't see this is an an adolescent ONLY issue, I see more adults behaving badly than I do young adults, honestly. What is now defunct in the lives of people that they must hurt someone else to feel good about themselves? I know, to an extent, this has always been, but before it was face to face, where you could clock a bitch who talked such shit to your face, in fact, most of the stuff said over a computer, would NEVER be said to someone's face, EVER.  So why would anyone feel that it is appropriate? Truth is, I don't think they even care or think about what is appropriate..but one thing I do know, if you watch them on-line, how they talk to others and behave in general, you have seen through their soul. It's the "real" them. How they are in person, is actually the actor whose being "human" to ensure friends, lets face it, it's gotta be lonely as hell to be evil. No decent person would bother with such ilk.

Personal lives, on and off line; some of it is downright disturbing!! Just a few examples, verbal abuse on children..what's up with that? Are they that weak minded, lacking that much parenting skill, or human love and compassion that verbally bashing a baby or child is the solution? I won't get into the real, physical bashing of child right now, or this blog won't end. People do the same to animals, what? They have no feelings? They don't know the difference between a happy voice, a very angry voice, and angry behaviour? Well, if you are doing that and reading this, STOP that shit NOW! Yes, they do know and you do not deserve a child or a pet if you do not have self control! Goodness me, that is common sense! Get help. Or give child up for adoption before you hurt it and do the same with your pet! BUT..when you bring that pet to a NON KILL shelter, don't lie, tell them your an abusive assbag and do not deserve the pet and it surly does not deserve your abuse!

I do not address "everyone in the human race" in this blog, but those who can relate to, and identify with, what I have said... this blog's for you.  It's time to make a change, its time to make sure you replace hate words with nice words, to lower your voice, to be on your computer and realise that a real person is on the other end with feelings and problems of their own, they don't need your bull shit adding to them. "Treat others the way YOU want to be treated". I am not suggesting that you let someone bully you or a relative..not at all, I am suggesting you leave the verbal/written aggression for those that well and truly deserve it. Don't verbally assault someone because you can and won't miss any teeth for it..because you're "on line". 


Lets all TRY to be more compassionate, to realise that we are all hurting in one way or another, that as a human race, we need to stick together, not divide. 


Can you just try that?

Be a good neighbour

People have become so rude and inconsiderate it astonishes me, There is a lack of compassion for our neighbor, but we will send bundles of money to places like Africa or Haiti..I am not saying when a disaster occurs we all shouldn't do what we can, I think we definitely should, if one million people sent $1.00...that would be a big help..But most of us, also know someone nearby that really needs help..Why aren’t we helping them? It is a great feeling to buy some groceries, put them in a box, drop them off at their front door, ring the bell and run...or cash in an envelope if they are behind on their rent or mortgage...Or a gas card if you know they are struggling to get to work...If they have children and it is Christmas, buy some toys and drop them off, and label it from Santa...If you can’t help them, try to find someone who can...Come on; is it that hard to be good neighbors again? I don’t think so.

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