Is it a mirage?

PEOPLE ARE NOT ALWAYS WHAT THEY SEEM..ARE THEY?

Some times, it is as if I am listening to a wood chipper right next to my ear, chipping away at branches as I sit wincing at that screeching grinding noise that accompanies it. 

It makes me very uncomfortable and suspicious when someone will tell me all about how horrible a friends child is, a child that is so horrible, they would like to put their hands around the child's neck and choke it..while they tell me this, they stand up, assume position, bent over far enough to reach a child, while their face is showing anger and hatred, their hands are making the motions..then go on to say that "but the mother is such a good friend, she just lets that little brat get away with everything and makes excuses for every nasty thing she does, I swear that child is evil."

 As I am witness to this, I sit there well aware said person would never do such a thing. It was a way in which to express her absolute frustration with a situation there is no control over. STILL..when you later hear this person complaining about the neighboring dogs barking early in the morning and stating that if said dogs keep it up, said person will kill them by throwing rocks at them..I have to wonder is this person for real or just accustomed to speaking so violently when it comes to things she does not like or gets overly frustrated with.  I don't have the absolute answer to that. I can only say:

These are just bad habits to me..and I believe that is all they are, habits..and yes, I do believe people can pick these up if that is how they were raised for example or in the process of  growing up; Maybe it was how all their friends were, or maybe just one and this person was impressed by the theatrics and the tough act that went along with it..you never know how someones life was and why as adults they say and do things that are really "out there." I do not believe this person would maliciously harm any child or animal..even though it seemed as if said person would..I do not believe for a minute that it ever would. If I did, I would have reported the confessions to the authorities. 

Sometimes, I believe we are all so quick to judge others based upon what sets well with us. I have seen pages on Facebook about animals where people day in and day out verbally abuse people who have had to part with their pet, who have posted photos of a child in a crate with a caption saying "you wouldn't let your kids live this way, don't let your dog live this way".  Who have written there is "a special place in hell" for dog and cat owners who leave their pet at a shelter and so on. I do not comment on such things because it would be WW3.  I believe that an owner should seek out a rescue and I believe crates are great for puppies and dogs, they are after all, den animals..no I don't think they should live in them, but they are great for them to sleep in. For being such "dog experts" and I use that term loosely, they obviously don't understand dogs are pack animals, and no dog, no matter it's size should ever be permitted in your bed. While it does not mean they have to sleep in a crate either Just my silly little opinion.  

My point is, we all don't "know it all", while there are experts on every matter..tried and true is what I listen to..and they are by experts with years of education and training and proof to back up the advise they give. It's like asking my non-surgeon neighbor how to perform a c-section and then stating it as fact and now believing I know how to perform one. Just an example.  I think much of the time some people just want to be important and to be heard, they want their opinion to be valued and authenticated and these pages give them that..at least in part. I also believe the same for those the write blogs, myself included. I have no idea how my blogs come across, I do not know if they make me important, but they sure do give me a way to vent, to explain, and to open my mind up to those who read it. 

~SOBRIA~

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Negativity & Jealousy

As I write this, I am disgusted, annoyed, and bewildered. You see, I have a good friend, who I'll call opal, who has a beautiful, 16 year old daughter, who I'll call diamond. Diamond is model material, but she is too short, otherwise, she'd have been "discovered" and working as one by now.  Diamond is sometimes called names in school, such as fat and ugly..I see diamonds pictures all the time, all recent, she is far from either. 

Because Diamond is 16, and they are impressionable, emotional, and take a lot to heart. I decided that I would take 3 recent photos of Diamond and post them on my facebook page, posing the question, cute or stunning? Everyone that commented made positive comments and I felt really good about what I had done, because you see, Diamond is also on my friends list on facebook, I wanted her to read positive comments and help her see she is none of the mean names that jealous girls call her. One of the cute comments came from her mum, Opal, saying Thank you, she's only 16, but she will appreciate your kind words.  Then..I was dismayed and angry when one of my "friends" posted on the first photo and wrote, cute..I struggle to find stunning. I replied, "keep looking, you will find it". She bypassed the second photo, which was the most stunning of all and went to the third and wrote, she's cute but she still has baby fat in her face..this was after the comment from mum stating the girl was only 16, she then carried onto say some other negative comments, she wrote a dialogue on her negative opinions of this girl. In my disgust and complete disbelief that anyone would insult a child, when clearly I, her friend, wrote that Diamond is gorgeous, just made me furious!  I finally wrote my purpose for the posting of the photos and used that to explain why I'd be deleting all negative comments and then, promptly did so.


Now, the "friend" who posted these negative comments is middle aged, over weight, divorced, and unemployed. I understand her personal negativity to an extent..but I believe that it's shameful and disgraceful to be cruel to others because you're struggling with weight issues, and are having a hard time finding work.  


I just want to say to anyone who reads this, if you find yourself in the situation my soon to be "ex friend" did, don't be cruel, don't pass off your hate and negativity onto anyone, but especially a child. If you do..you have more to be ashamed of than you realise. 


In hindsight, my "friend" made an ass of herself, there isn't one person who'd look at her photo and not see this was the act of jealousy. Middle aged women have no business being jealous if a 16 year old kid! 


Grow up!