Stubborn or Integrity?

There is a quote that I love; “One of the truest tests of integrity is its blunt refusal to be compromised.”
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Chinua Achebe quotes

I have been accused of being obstinate, closed-minded, and basically uninformed because of strong values/beliefs on many things.  Clearly, I love the above quote because my rejection to be compromised has led to others compromising their manners, sense of reasoning, and themselves. They always tend to start ridiculing you because you will not shift..Which isn't saying much for their moral fiber, now is it?

Now, I understand the difference between being compromised and having a belief system that may be flawed, nevertheless, if you believe in it, you know there are flaws in it because any knowledgeable person would logically know enough about it to trust in it. The alternative belief may have more flaws, thus you have chosen to believe what sits best with you and your lifestyle.  Being compromised can dictate to many different facets of being and way of life.

I believe in G-D, and many believe in evolution. These are debates that will bring out the worst in Christians and heathens alike.

I believe in right and wrong, some believe that everything they do is right and you are always wrong.

I believe in family values, while others believe in “getting theirs” even if it's against the family.

I believe that those you meet for the first time should be accepted, and respected with an open mind unless of course the meeting is a professional one and you are visiting them in prison to discuss their rape/murder/abduction, etc case.  Others believe that people must earn their respect and trust. I believe that it is I who must earn that from those I meet.

I believe that my behavior when I am away from you should embody my behavior when I am with you.  Some people believe “the cats away, the mice shall play”.

I believe that there are some actions that are unjustifiable and unforgivable. Some people believe that everyone deserves a tenth chance.

I believe in being honest and being myself, always. Some people believe it’s best to make an impression and set out being someone they really aren’t..but they can’t see that.

I believe that if we don’t occasionally put ourselves first, we will always come up last. Some people believe that it’s best to always put others first, it’d be selfish, otherwise.

I believe that a true friend is rare and is to be treasured. Some people believe that true friends don’t exist because everyone has an agenda. (That’s usually the person who believes that way).


I believe that pets are the most precious gift to man and should be treated with great love and care. Some people believe they are easy targets and abuse them in the most horrific ways. (These people are typically mouthy, but cowardly, and bullies to other people).

I believe that children are also the most precious gift to man and should be treated with the greatest love and care. Some people believe they too are easy targets and abuse them in the most horrific ways. (These people are generally mouthy to anyone they deem below them, obviously cowardly, and bullies to those, including pets, that are weaker and smaller).

All of the aforementioned subjects I will not be compromised on. I stand by what I believe, and I will NOT agree with you for the sake of satisfying your ego. I will not surrender to a weakened alternative nor have in me an iniquity that would destroy me to the core.

So call me obstinate, closed-minded, and basically uninformed because of my values/beliefs on many things.  Clearly, I love the above quote because I have integrity.


~Sobria~

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