I really can't stand to be around control freaks..They grate on the last nerve in my body, I have to control myself so I don't go off on a rant explainin' to them that most everything they do, they do wrong..that their way isn't best, and their demands are unreasonable! Control freaks need to learn that they end up with the majority resenting them, maybe even hating them, and they are viewed as someone with a superiority complex, and of course, that is repulsive in itself.
Everything must be done their way, in their time frame, and with their approval, of course. They have to be head honcho all of the time and everyone must answer to them. It's quite Hitler'ish if you ask me. I have seen a connection between substance abuse and control freaks, but maybe that's just my experiences with "those people".
A control freak believes that everything they do is 100% proper all of the time, they are superior in their knowledge of, and performance of - domestic duties, cooking, their chosen career and yours too, gardening, parenting, driving, planning, organising events, etc..You get the picture. I think these people are also narcissists because they are egotistical and self adsorbed..They would have to be in order to maintain their superiority complex and the constant bullying they hand out to get their own way. It is ALWAYS about them and never about YOU.
I have found that most are not easy to deal with and nearly impossible to live with. They are quite unstable if things do not go their way, especially if they TOLD you to do something and when to do it. They don't ASK if you would do this or that, they order you to do it and most times will state at time it is to be done. This is infuriating to say the least..no one appreciates being told, on a daily basis, what to do and being given a deadline to have it done...especially in their own house! The problems that can result from living that way, I imagine are many. This "doing as your told" business can really alter the individuality of a partner/spouse, they literally must start living to satisfy the control freak..or face a row they likely will not win. The reason I believe they wouldn't win is because if they are weak or kind enough to bullied around, they won't have the back bone to tell the control freak to stick it where the sun doesn't shine.
I too have a propensity to be controlling, I believe that many of us do, but there are limits to mine. My control freak nature is to just do it myself, honestly, there are certain responsibilities that I don't feel anyone else can do suitably in my home. I took absolute control of home, I did everything myself. This is controlling in its own way, it just doesn't assault the lifestyle of others, unless of course they want to eat or have a drink on my couch, you'll cop it from me right quick for trying that!
I once worked for a control freak, it didn't last long..he accused me of signing his name to a legal letter, I showed Mr. Scatterbrained the original which used HIS pen that he carried with him always, upon his sighting that he was, in fact, wrong, an apology was ordered, I didn't see one coming, so as he walked to leave my office, I said "pardon me, don't you have anything to say?" He replied "yes, I do, I need this file and that file and I want them now"...I instantly jumped from my chair, slammed my fist on my desk and loudly yelled "Just who in the F---k do you think you're talking to?" His stunned look elated me, he hadn't been aggressively challenged before..With that, I slammed my hand again and yelled "F---ing answer me!" He sheepishly left my office, put on his coat and left the office.
I quickly typed my "resignation letter" in paragraph 2 of a legal letter that I had been typing, “you can finish this yourself, I quit"! Proudly, I left my office keys on the file cabinet because I had flipped my desk, locked and walked out the door. Within 2 minutes of driving home, my mobile phone was ringing and beeping I had 3 voice mails when I got home, all from him, wanting to “discuss this, please” and apologising for his behaviour. I did not call the idiot back because I DO have backbone and I do not have the patience or the capacity to deal with control freaks.
one word AMEN!
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